Apron Strings

"Go my child",said God "I have sent my representative on earth,you will call her mom"
All children have heard this, most times it seems true as the apron strings are nurturing and protective.
At times when the kids want to move on in life the very same apron strings seem more like a hangman's noose, as parents are unwilling to loosen their hold on the kids especially their sons--who are their "kuldeepak" or a means to carry on the family name.
At such times the son becomes a soft target to be emotionally blackmailed,to continue to stay with his parents, who are unwilling, due to insecurity or unwillingness to give up and let go of their authority on his life.

I'm sure such a situation ends up pulling the son in both ways--one towards his wife who wants his time for herself and their own new family,which otherwise can be suffocated--and on the other his mom/dad who don't want to let go.
The son can clearly demarcate each loved ones hold on his time and life area,if he is wise enough.

I have witnessed such a situation from close quarters & can say in all honesty that this is a dismal and suffocating life for all involved.
If only people realised that you can love and foster and still be close knit if you let go and give all the participants breathing space--we all need to recognise each others needs & give each other his or her own private space,for doing so will not break off the loved one --rather it will bring him/her more closer with a lot more respect & love
for as the saying goes "To test love--you should let it go--if they love you-- they will come back" & i'm sure with a lot more intensity than before.